Hypnotherapy and anger
Does your anger cause you problems?
Most people experience an array of emotions through the course of a day, and in many cases, they are able to express those feelings in an appropriate way.
However, there are some that find it difficult to do this, especially with anger. They may think that it's not acceptable to feel anger at all, and try to hide it or 'bottle it up', or they may lack the skills to express it in a way that's socially acceptable.
Is anger acceptable?
Before we go on, let's get that 'anger is unacceptable' idea out of the way.
Anger can be a perfectly valid response to
- times when we are treated unfairly or see others being treated in that way
- times when we feel frustrated or powerless
- times when people do things we perceive as wrong, especially if there doesn't seem to be a consequence
- times when we think we are being attacked or ignored
Anger is a perfectly reasonable thing to feel in these circumstances. It's not the anger itself that's the problem, though, it’s what we do with it. If we allow our anger to control us, or lash out and hurt ourselves or others, then our anger begins to affect our relationships with friends, workmates and family. It can even affect our ability to keep a job and get us in trouble with the law.
What is anger?
You have probably come across the 'fight or flight' syndrome, also called the stress response. Anger is the 'fight' part of that and with rage comes an increase in blood pressure, pulse rate and adrenaline production.
Uncontrolled temper can also be connected with stress, anxiety and depressive disorders, either as a symptom or an underlying cause.
How does anger show?
Anger can be shown in a large number of forms, from general irritability to violent reactions over minor situations. Road rage would be one example of this.
The causes of anger
This varies from one person to another but can include stress, bereavement, despair or past experiences of feeling helpless or being treated unfairly.
Solutions to anger
There are ways to combat these problems effectively and many people find hypnotherapy useful.
When I'm working with someone who wants to change the way they deal with anger, I tend to concentrate on finding and dealing with the underlying beliefs that are triggering the anger. This helps them to create new thought processes and patterns of behaviour.
Hypnotherapy can also help you feel generally calmer and more relaxed, which can mean you are less sensitive to the things that used to trigger off your anger, helping to prevent problems as well as solve them.
By coping with the symptoms of anger in new ways and dealing with the underlying cause you can make a considerable difference to your life. Of course, as always hypnosis isn’t a magic wand, and the final results will be down to you, but if you think I may be able to help you, please get in touch.
Debbie Waller is a professional hypnotherapist, specialising in stress, anxiety and related issues. She also offers EMDR which is used for trauma, PTSD, phobias and OCD and publishes hypnotherapy-for-ibs.co.uk for those interested in using hypnotherapy to relieve the symptoms of irritable bowel syndrome.
Debbie owns a multi-accredited hypnotherapy school, Yorkshire Hypnotherapy Training and offers further training for qualified therapists via CPD Expert. She is the author of Their Worlds, Your Words, editor and contributor to the online magazine Hypnotherapy Training & Practitioner, and co-author of The Hypnotherapy Handbook.
For more information on any of these services, phone 01977 678593.
Researcher & drafter on these blogs: Rachel Waller.